Let’s be honest, life rarely make sense.

Plans fall apart, people disappoint, and things often happen that we never saw coming.

So considering all of that, how do we actually just become ok with things?

The answer might be both simple and profound: we learn to be ok with things, even when they’re not ok.

That might sound contradictory, but in reality, it can form the foundation of emotional resilience and inner peace. It’s about learning how to live fully, even when life is messy, uncertain, or painful.

Let’s discuss.

Learning to Be Ok

Understand What “Being Ok” Really Means

Being ok doesn’t mean we’re happy about what’s happening. It doesn’t mean we approve or feel nothing, just that we’re not fighting reality.

Try saying to yourself: “This is what’s happening right now, and I don’t have to like it to live through it.”

This simple shift can reduce inner resistance, which is often more painful than the situation itself.

Stop Suppressing Your Emotions

You don’t have to fake calmness or positivity. Instead, let yourself feel those uncomfortable emotions like sadness, anger, grief, frustration.

Psychologically, suppressing emotions leads to more suffering. They need to be acknowledged and expressed (not necessarily acted on).

Many spiritual traditions teach that emotions are like weather: passing storms that don’t define the sky. You are the awareness behind them.

Zoom Out

From a spiritual perspective, life is not random, and discomfort is often part of our soul’s growth. This doesn’t necessarily mean everything “happens for a reason” in a way we always understand. But pain can shape us in ways comfort never will.

Think about this: Have the hardest things in your life also taught you something you couldn’t have learned otherwise?

Many spiritual paths also teach surrender, trusting that there’s wisdom in the unfolding of life. Just because we may not see the purpose now, doesn’t mean there isn’t one.

Let Go of the Illusion of Control

Much of our suffering comes from trying to control what we can’t like other people, outcomes, or the past. Psychology calls this external control, and it rarely works.

Peace comes from focusing on what we can influence such as our thoughts, our reactions, and our next steps.

Observe Your Experience

At our core, we are not our thoughts, our problems, or our emotions.

We are the witness, and this is not just a spiritual idea. Observing our experience, rather than only being caught up in it, can reduce anxiety and increase clarity.

Try this: Close your eyes. Take three breaths. Ask, Who is noticing this moment? Rest there, in that noticing. The more you visit this inner space, the more grounded you become, eventually feeling this deeply even when the outer world is chaotic.

Be Ok With the Unknowns

We often want the various aspects of our lives to be complete, explained, or resolved. But life doesn’t always offer neat conclusions, does it? Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is just breathe through the not knowing.

Final Thoughts

The goal isn’t perfection or permanent peace.

When we can let things be as they are, without needing them to be different, we create a quiet kind of freedom.

What do you think? Please let me know below, and thanks for reading!

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