As we all know relationships can end, often for the betterment of both parties.

Whether you’re the one getting dumped or even the one running for the hills, there’s a degree of uncertainty around what comes next, and how to deal with past and present emotions you feel toward your ex.

If you have unresolved feelings toward the person or feel an absence of closure surrounding the ended relationship, it can feel like a mental prison you’re waiting to break out of.

And if you’re holding on to something that’s no longer there, it’s probably time for you to start moving on, so let’s talk about how to get over an ex.

How to Get Over an Ex

Can You Ever Stop Loving Someone?

You can be thankful for the times you shared with this person and still deeply care about them. The love, as you feel it now however, will change. So yes, it’s possible to stop loving someone.

Different people can serve different purposes in your life, you can move on romantically with someone else and stop loving the ex partner in the same way you once did.

Why am I Still Hurting Over My Ex?

When a significant amount of time has passed and the memory of a past romantic rejection still stings, it could be because you feel the breakup revealed something about who you are as a person.

How Do You Heal a Broken Heart?

Tips for Healing a Broken Heart:

• Give yourself time to grieve.
• Make a list of things you like about yourself.
• Allow yourself to feel all emotions.
• Find yourself a new source of joy.
• Acknowledge thoughts about your ex.
• Turn your attention to others.
• Find some relief in exercise and movement.
• Find a support system.
• Remember what was bad about the relationship.
• Take care of yourself.
• Don’t judge the length of your healing process.

How Do You Let Go of a Failed Relationship?

• Recognize the problem.
• Create separation.
• Let go of the mementos.
• Focus on empowering yourself.

What is Past Relationship Trauma?

Many traumatized people find it hard to trust and have difficulty getting romantically involved with a new person even if they like them.

Relationship trauma occurs when a past intimate relationship has involved physical or psychological abuse.

Relationship trauma can still be affecting a person’s everyday life, and brought forward into their next relationship unless dealt with constructively.

How Do You Know if You Mean Nothing to Someone?

• They are ignoring you.
• They stop communicating with you.
• They’re suddenly avoiding you.
• They begin acting rude.
• They are acting more secretive.
• They act angry or defensive.

What are the Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship?

Some characteristics of unhealthy relationships:

• Dishonesty.
• Control.
• Disrespect.
• Hostility.
• Dependence.
• Intimidation.
• Physical or sexual violence.

How Do I Stop Obsessing About My Ex?

• Throw away any reminders.
• Write a list of the reasons you broke up.
• Delete their contact info.
• Accept that you won’t forget them.
• Seek professional help if needed.

What To Do When the Person You Love Stops Loving You?

• Give your wounds time to heal.
• Don’t blame yourself.
• Share your feelings with someone.
• Cut off communication with the person.
• Get moving, try physical exercises.
• Look to the future.
• Prioritize your other relationships.
• Spend time on yourself.
• Understand that it can take some time to feel like moving on.

Other Tips for Moving on From Your Ex

• Stay off social media for a while.
• Resist the urge to stalk your ex online.
• Redecorate.
• Get rid of any ex reminders.
• Visualize your positive future.
• Don’t contact them.
• Get support from friends.
• Plan a vacation.

Final Thoughts:

One way to separate yourself from your past relationship and move on is to take an objective look at what the relationship was really like.

We tend to look at the past through rose-coloured glasses, remembering the good times mostly because that’s what we may want our reality to be right now.

It can be hard to see it when you’re the one getting dumped, but sometimes, a relationship simply needs to end.

It’s possible your relationship failed because it was a toxic relationship, and you’ll be free in a way once you get past your own hazy thoughts.

You can take the lessons learned with you in a positive way, and grow into a better version of yourself in your next relationship.

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