We might hold on to anger from the times we were treated unfairly in life.
We may feel anger or resentment and can get stuck in the past about holding onto things or people that we can no longer have.
It’s not good for us, keeps us stuck in the memories of our past, and can prevent us from noticing and appreciating what we do have in the present.
Anger, or the state of being mad or angry, can be typically described in the moment as feeling stressed, irritated, or frustrated.
What does it mean to let go of anger? It’s also letting go of the past so we can move on from past relationships, people, and unhealthy emotions in our lives.
Practice self compassion, be kind to yourself, forgive yourself for old mistakes, relax and live in the moment. Let’s talk about anger issues and letting go of anger.
Letting Go Of Anger
What emotion is underneath the anger?
Usually one of the primary emotions, like fear or sadness, can be found underneath the anger. Fear includes anxiety and worry, and sadness comes from the experience of loss, disappointment or discouragement.
Types of Anger
- Passive anger.
- Volatile anger.
- Fear-based anger.
- Frustration-based anger.
- Overwhelmed anger.
- Pain-based anger.
- Chronic anger.
- Manipulative anger.
What happens when you’re too angry?
The long-term physical effects of uncontrolled anger can include anxiety, high blood pressure and headaches. Strategies for anger management include exercise, learning relaxation techniques and mental health therapy.
Why do I get so angry so easily?
A lot of things can trigger our anger, including general stress, family problems, and financial issues.
Events from your past, such as experiencing traumatic, frightening or stressful situations can sometimes cause a degree of PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) that can lead to angry outbursts.
For some, anger could be caused by an underlying disorder, such as alcoholism or depression. Substances such as alcohol make some people act more aggressively.
Anger itself isn’t considered a mental disorder, but anger is a symptom of several mental health conditions.
What are signs of anger issues?
Signs of anger issues include:
- Always feeling angry.
- Feeling your anger may be out of control.
- Hurting others verbally or physically.
- Small things make you angry or upset.
- Often regret something you’ve said or done while angry.
Ways to control your anger in the moment:
- Take deep breaths.
- Try reciting a comforting mantra.
- Try visualization.
- Check your perspective.
- Express your frustration constructively.
- Defuse anger with humour.
- Change your surroundings.
Where is anger stored in the body?
It’s believed anger is stored in the liver and gall bladder. Anger can cause headaches and hypertension which can affect the stomach and the spleen.
How to use anger productively
When you’re angry about something, you can use your anger as motivation to change your situation. Anger can be an energizing negative emotion.
If you’re angry about your job and hate your boss, use that anger as motivation to start looking for a new job. You can also channel anger into exercise and make it more productive and help get yourself motivated.
How do you let go of anger and bitterness?
Acknowledge your feelings about any harm done to you and how they affect your behaviour, and work to let those go.
Choose to forgive a person who’s offended you, or forgive yourself for past wrongs.
Get away from your role as a victim and release the control and power the offending person or situation has had over your life.
Suppressing our anger will generally just make us feel angrier. Learn to deal with this emotion strategically, and a gentler, easier path can open up for your life.
Tell me in the comments about your experiences or strategies of letting go of anger and moving on with life.
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